It's never easy to get sex drives synced up between partners. I don't think your weird or unreasonable, and as you are predicting, once you libido goes down your male partners will be wishing they could have sex even once a week or month.

We've been through similar...between physical health issues, medication side effects, my wife stating she was fulfilled even without sex, to me being a gay man in a heterosexual marriage...makes sexual activity the hardest thing to see eye to eye on. We do, not as often as either one of us wants...but we do appreciate it very much when we do find the moments to be sexually intimate.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you can put as much emphasis as you want on sex and sexual compatibility, but please don't lose sight of there are positives in your life even with limited sexual activity.