I just say that because every instance of my shame - and I feel ashamed for a lot in my life - has a corresponding link to responsibility. I feel that either I made it happen, or I didn't do what I should have to prevent it happening. Then I feel a great deal of anger at the frustration I feel, towards myself, or towards those and that which is around me. I have on ocassion lashed out or made a rash decision because of this anger.