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Originally Posted by Pearl3
I'm considering separating from my husband of almost 10 years. We have 2 very young children at home and I'm a stay at home mom. Wondering if anyone out there has gone thru this in a similar situation?
Here are my reasons-
-he cheated on me (I only found texts) while pregnant with my first child
-he does not do any household chores
-he is very ego centric and narcissistic
-he has blocked me out completely of all forms of intimacy
-we have very different personalities and horrible communication
I feel more like a hired maid and nanny then his wife. I'm well educated and can find work but enjoy spending time with my 2 kids and I'm not sure if I should wait until they are older to leave or do it now. I'm feeling very guilty.
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Why do you feel guilty? Kids pick up on what's going on in the home. If your husband is self-centered and you two are estranged from each other the kids will know something is up by the time they're 4 or 5. If you fight or argue loudly, they'll know even sooner. If he cheated on you before, he will likely do it again given that you say he has "blocked you out." People often stay together for the kids but often it's a bad idea. Kids would rather be with two separate happy parents than two parents together who hate each other.