I'm puzzled as to why something so simple as discussing mutual living space is something one needs to have strength for.


IMO it seems like you're down playing your husband's behaviour, but I wont presume to know why.


It could be because you don't want us judging him harshly and wish to protect him from faceless strangers on the internet, or it could be because you're not comfortable with the truth of your husband.


Either way, only you know and only you can deal with it accordingly. I suggest you take the time to be real with yourself and acknowledge why something that would be a non issue in any other marriage, is something you cannot even calmly discuss with your husband.


Not to share here, but for your benefit, to help you decide on a way forward.


We really can't help if there is no willingness to change your situation, unless of course you just need a sympathetic ear or two, that we can certainly provide, but its best to state that upfront so as not to receive so much unsolicited advice.


I hope your situation gets resolved soon.