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A now moment can get highly lit up, emotionally charged and suddenly everything hangs in the balance. Nothing else is happening except the present moment, these are extreme now moments. The therapist is completely thrown off his horse and doesn’t know what to do, anxiety rises. Most run and hide in technique, say something inadequate to cut the tension. You can’t pretend there isn’t a specific situation at hand. Such a now moment perturbs the intersubjective state. There needs to be a resolution, it will determine the outcome. The most successful will be a moment of meeting. The need is to bypass technique and go into something truly authentic. There needs to be a free moving along, it is not about power. Moments of meeting can change people. Making the unconscious conscious doesn’t help people. The only thing that helps is working through the nature of their relationship with
the therapist. A moment of meeting kicks the intersubjective to another level. There are many mini moments in the now. The relationship is progressively changing in small jumps. Movement is primary, words are secondary. It is a very special micro voyage where two people take the same emotional trip together. It can be shown in a physical act, it can be through voice, a vocal tone. These moments can change our lives. <font color="#880000"> </font>

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Wow Caramee, this is so deep. I'm going to copy and paste this and save it. I am doing a scrapbook of my therapy journey and this is perfect for one of my pages.

The thing is, I can't stay mad at him for long. He missed the moment that is true and it hurt me. I just need to remember the comments he has made in the past. I struggle sometimes with whether he meant them or not but I do that with everyone.

I will talk with him about this on Tuesday but not in the mood I've been in the past few days. I'm determined to face these fears of mine. I just needed to clear my head a bit.

Thank you so much for your support.