After reading others posts, I had another thought on this topic.

My T never begins the session. He never speaks first, with two exceptions, one is when he is going on vacation. He will say " I will be here for two more tuesdays and then I'll be away..." [or something like that] He always gets that out there asap. The other is when we have some scheduling to do and he might just bring that up first.

But after that it goes silent until I begin somehow. But I always begin, never he. He doesn't ask how are you or anything like that.

Hmmm, maybe the difference between CBT and analytical/dynamic therapy?