Plenty of people would argue for or against that situation being classified as rape. So please don't depend on the opinions of others when it comes to what to call this situation. It could distract you or cause you to doubt your own feelings, which is no good.

I think it's more important to focus on the facts that

- He threatened to rape you
- He didn't care about how you felt at all about anything

Those are not signs of someone who loves you. Doesn't make a difference that he is drunk.

Like seriously all that matters is that this guy does not really care about you or how you feel or your boundaries, which means he absolutely has the mentality to be a serious abuser.