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Originally Posted by LookingforCalm
From an outsider point of view, it seems to me that you are being taken advantage of in every way possible.
I'm so sorry you're going through so much. I can't help but think that a "come to Jesus" meeting might be in order for your son and your daughter-in-law. Have you talked to them about what is going on with you? About setting boundaries? Do they contribute financially to the home and other expenditures (like food, electricity)? I know times are tough for people, but I don't see why they need to live with you for four years...
I feel awful that you feel like a prisoner in your own home. I think it might do you good to write down what you're feeling, and maybe get up your nerve to discuss with them what you think should happen while they live with you. You are being very generous by letting so many people live with you, and to have them ignore you is rude. Do you think you would be able to have a talk with them about maybe not only what is going on with you, but talking about what is going on with them and what their plans are?
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I have tried to have a meeting with them to discuss things but they never want to talk about it. My son pays all the bills here, and they get food stamps so buy the groceries. I just paid the house off when I lost my job last year and had to pull out my retirement to survive on until I could get another job. Then had to quit the one job I found after five months of looking because of the depression and anxiety.
My son and I are both on the deed to the house. When I divorced in 2003, I wanted to ensure my sons (my youngest took his life in 2006) would have a place to call home, since we were constantly being threatened by my husband to be kicked out and be homeless. The plan at the time was by the time the house was paid for I would have either be remarried or be financially stable enough to get another smaller one for myself....now that is not possible. No job, no income, no source of financial help. I feel because I can't help pay utilities and such I have no say so as to what they do. If they did decide to move out, I'd have a roof over my head but no utilities or food.
My daughter in law and I did have a talk a few weeks ago and during the conversation she said she loved me like a mother...and other things she was thankful for me doing, but it all seems a lie due to the way to acts. Actions speak louder than words.