Hmmm... I don't dream of my SM. Thank God! But, I wonder, can you consider him showing up in your dreams in another way? Maybe, think of this "dream father" as the father that you should have had, and are getting now, if only in your dreams?

I don't know, just throwing it out there! I don't know how I would deal with that. I dream of my mother, who was an alcoholic and neglectful, but not mean ever. It doesn't make me unhappy to dream of her, but she is gone now, so maybe that is why.