Hello Gyra -

I am so relieved to read your posting. I too am married to someone (recently diagnosed) with ADD and can readily identify with your feelings. Some aspects of our relationship are really good but the longer we are together the worse the inadequacies in the relationship become. I find it particularly difficult to be the one who always has to hold us together financially. It is also very frustrating to live in a house that is always a wreck especially when he is always at home not working and I am always working. More and more often I find myself thinking of getting out of the relationship but then I feel guilty for the thought of abandoning him, especially since he would likely end up homeless at some point for want of being able to hold down a job. I feel trapped.