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Originally Posted by CopperStar
Plenty of people would argue for or against that situation being classified as rape. So please don't depend on the opinions of others when it comes to what to call this situation. It could distract you or cause you to doubt your own feelings, which is no good.
I think it's more important to focus on the facts that
- He threatened to rape you
- He didn't care about how you felt at all about anything
Those are not signs of someone who loves you. Doesn't make a difference that he is drunk.
Like seriously all that matters is that this guy does not really care about you or how you feel or your boundaries, which means he absolutely has the mentality to be a serious abuser.
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I cannot say it any better if I try. In cases like this - what is and is not rape often come down to how it leaves you emotionally feeling - which can be confused when talking to too many people to get advice about it. That said - whether or not it is rape, this person definately has all the attributes assigned to an abuser and you should rethink your relationship status with him and decide what will allow you to be safest. All the best to you... *hugs*