I don't think you should brush off the ex's mom's warning. That is, if there was no evidence to back it up, that would be one thing. However, there *is* mounting evidence to back up her opinion, so don't brush it off just because of who its coming from. I think that would be a mistake.

Think of it this way. Your BF was his mother's world from the time of her divorce until....well, now. No one ever cut the apron strings, unfortunately. I think you should question just how much of an influence she had on your bf's break up with his ex. He's going to tell you one story and may hide how much influence his mommy has on him. (Grown men tend to not admit to being momma's boys.)

If things don't change, could you deal with this woman who loves you one day and then gets you into legal trouble the next? (Whatever the equivalent of calling CPS would be...I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own, sorry if I'm wrong.)

I'd be tempted to contact the ex's mom....however, I don't think you need more info from her. I think you can see the mounting evidence for yourself.

I know ultimatums aren't good, but your BF needs to cut the apron strings. He needs to stand up for you and tell his mother that bad behavior toward you will not be tolerated! Yes, his mom is family, but after age 18 priorities shift. No longer do we have the same loyalties to our parents. Our partner and children need to come first in the grand scheme of things, over our parents.

Did the mom destroy his last relationship? She definitely didn't help things! You could be a perfect angel and do nothing wrong but you'll always be the enemy. I know I couldn't live like that.

Shyte. If someone causes episodes for me.....they're *gone*.