Write up your own contract of things you'd like him to commit to.

Like-- no contracts.

Seriously though, even if you don't give it to him, write it down. It might help you sort through your feelings about it.

I took these from your post. (the one Jan said to bring in) It's what I "saw" you were trying to say.

Create a safe environment.

Don't push too hard or too fast.

I don't want you to just listen to me--I want you to "hear" me.

Teach me coping mechanisms.

These things will help me learn to trust you.