AlienInShadows - My mother was constantly trying to change my life too. I would cringe anytime she came over because I knew she would insist on moving things around or changing stuff in some way. When I asked her not to she would act all crushed like I had intentionally hurt her or didn't appreciate her. She would go home and I could expect a phone call from my father chastizing me. "Why do you have to hurt her all the time? Do you realize she is crying uncontrollably? Why must everything be about you? She does so much for you and you don't appreciate her. Why must you do this everytime?" and so on.

I came home from the hospital once to find my entire kitchen rearranged. I was so freaking angry.