I filed for divorce from my abusive husband about 7 months ago. We were together about 10 years; married about 8 years. We have three children together (9, 5, &4).
My problem is...even though I left, and filed for divorce, I can't seem to stay away from him!! When he tells me to do something, I get so anxious of the potential consequences if I don't that I end up doing what I'm told. I spend more time at his house than at my own place because I'm so scared of upsetting him (like when he has visitation, I end up staying the weekend too and being responsible for the children while he does his own thing...but starts the intimidation act if I try to leave at any point). He ignores the fact that we are even in the middle of a divorce. If it's mentioned, he just laughs and says, "So? It's just a piece of paper. It doesn't change anything."

How do I get myself out of this situation? I'm so genuinely terrified of him that I have panic attacks just imagining his reaction to me not doing as I'm told. Filing for divorce took A LOT for me to do...but it seems pointless since all he did was laugh about it, and he still has complete control over me!