Thanks everyone for your responses. I'm feeling much better about all of this today.

I do think we disconnected at the wrong time for me and I'll tell him my thoughts about that. I'd like to hear his thoughts too.

Part of the reason he went into a boundary discussion is because I said that I've turned my attachment to him into something healthier. I don't call between sessions anymore, fax him long letters hoping for a response etc.

I do still send, on occasion, a joke or like a few days ago, I sent him a link that referenced the place I was telling him about. I don't expect responses anymore and I try very hard not to do that too much.

He then said "I am respecting the therapeutic boundaries" and then I got upset a bit over the word and told him so. Then he went into the discussion. He does know that is a trigger word for me though.

But as I sit here this morning, I have some different thoughts. Hopefully, they won't change by noon, but one never knows.

I do respect him more for keeping his boundaries with me. He said if he didn't, I would lose respect for him and he's right. I still like his style and hope he keeps it going. I like to chat once in awhile. It helps me relax and makes me feel like he cares.

He told me a long time ago that our relationship would be a safe place for me. I feel that it is a safe place and that is why I told him what I did. I meant every word of it.

I think my expectations of his response may have been too high. My husband often says that I look for exact responses when talking about feelings like that. If I don't get it, then I start obsessing about it and telling the other person they don't love me or care etc.

If my husband knows this about me, then so does my T. Perhaps my T incorporates this into our sessions. I don't know. But I still will talk about how I felt for the past few days.

Maybe there will be more insight to this then I am aware of.