As a naturally honest, emotional and expressive person I don't think you can really blame therapists for promoting communication when problems remain unsolved and could easily be understood through sitting down and talking to whomever it is that needs to be aware of the situation. We communicate, all the time, in hundreds of different ways and talking is simply the most useful and most complex forms of communication we possess. Many people do talk about their feelings with one another but I suppose because this is generally done in private it seems less apparent somehow.

I think one of the main reasons people don't talk with one another about all their fears, anxieties, issues, etc. is the media's horrendous representations, where a character has shallow problems that can be fixed through the mere power of another persons love, time and attention. People expect that when they find the one it's as simple as hugging it out and things will be sunshine, rainbows and confetti. The truth is love CAN help you overcome your issues, problems, etc. but not by magically saving you. The right person makes you want to be brave enough to at least TRY and make things work, and talking about it is the responsibility of the person with the issue.

I'm kind of an optimist and I know what I want. From the gate, I want my partner to know that I'm honest and will do my best to communicate with them about anything that I feel requires attention. I think another aspect, one that is very important, that people miss is actually sitting down to go through what is necessary to make relationships work. It's easy to be like, "We are friends!" And not, "We're friends but let's talk about what it really means to us." The same goes for relationships.

So, no, communication is not the enemy or pointless. In fact, it's the exact opposite and the only reason people fail to do so is because school, bullies, and the media have constantly told us failure is not an option, and how we feel - if it isn't shallow enough to fix straight away or conform - is invalid. I once saw an amazing quote about love: 'We assume people love the same way we do, and when they don't we're afraid it's not there'. The things is a lot of people are afraid of judgement, and are expected to fit into nice little gendered packages, it's the lack of communication that screws us over. I'm all for sticking it to the media and mental illness telling me to invalidate my own feelings by talking it out - no matter how hard it is.

(Hah, I'd say sorry for rambling BUT)