My T doesn't really give homework, though she's given me a few tools to deal with anxiety/panic attacks. One is about stopping and thinking when I'm starting to freak out. Like catching myself before my thoughts spiral out of control. (I feel like there's another step in there that I'm forgetting...) Can't say that generally works very well for me though...

The other, with panic attacks, is to ride the wave of the panic rather than trying to fight it. That can be fairly helpful to me.

Our marriage counselor has given us homework a few times--like a couple times he's told us to have a fight about something. The idea was to show we could have a fight and still be safe and secure in the relationship. (We're both rather conflict-averse, particularly me.)

Most recently, I was talking about my difficulties with the emotion of anger--both having people angry at me and feeling and expressing anger at others (I tend to turn my anger inward). So a couple weeks ago, MC told me my homework was to get angry at H and express that anger. It took a couple weeks, but I achieved that over the weekend. It wasn't like I went into it thinking, "OK, homework time!"--it came about naturally. But I definitely managed to express the anger (may have told him to go F himself at one point...). And after we told MC about it, he emphasized the fact that we survived it and were both sitting there, like H didn't leave me or anything. He acknowledged that it probably wasn't fun or pleasant, but that we got through it.