Thanks Almeda & Sunny,

The thing is, I am not just avoiding the pain but I tend to avoid feeling altogether. I go right to the intellectual, because that is where I am most comfortable. It's a way of not feeling anything.

Yes, Sunny, I do have to see him this week. I have other things related to my son's illness that I need to talk through with him. And maybe Sunny, in a way you are right about keeping the other stuff light this time.

I've decided I will talk about the separation but I will make it productive and talk about how I will fill the time we are apart. (My new job, etc.) It's good for me to hear myself say how I will take care of myself, another one of my therapy issues.

So, I have to do this I know it, in my heart.

Thanks friends. I'll let you know how it goes.