Maybe right now giving space to her and workinging with a therapist to manage your symptoms will communicate to her you are willing to work on your part of the relationship. Ask her if she would be willing to do marriage counseling when you've gotten a bit of stability. Medications alone don't do much when we've had years of reactions but showing that your serious about working on things and knowing that part of it was having an undiagnosed condition that you are now addressing will go a long way.