Judging others too harshly? I only say this because when I go through a spell without making new friends (like now) I have to look at my last friendships and also my own views and values, and my level of tolerance, which always needs work. When I am stressed out is when I tend to do more judging, and it is like no one can meet my standards. Finally I get sick of everyone, then I get sick of myself! I called an old friend who I had been judging lately, and got a little less demanding, and more curious about her life, and we had a great conversation. I don't know if it helps but the year before I got married I was preoccupied and kind of distant. The great thing about marriage is you have two people bringing in friends and new people. As far as having traditional views about children before marriage and all, guess you could find a nice Christian church where that wouldn't be a problem, maybe volunteer some hours there, meet some like-minded people.. If you don't feel like bothering with people right now...maybe it is a good time to sit down and think about what you reallly want in friendships. Being clear about that might help. That's what I am using this solitary time for. I wish I was getting married (again) in 10 months. Best of luck.