Granite,
I sincerely doubt that your T is annoyed. She maybe was trying to get you to stop berating yourself, because we all know the spiral we can delve into if we just let it all fly. You are NOT HORRIBLE. I know we could all tell you that until we are blue in the face, and you still won't believe it.

If your son truly didn't care about you, he wouldn't invite you over to his girlfriend's house. He does it because he DOES love you. You have a husband and son who love you, and a whole contingent of friends you scrapbook with that don't think you are terrible. I think you need to try and take it one hour or minute at a time on Thanksgiving.

It will be ok. As my T tells me, tell that self-hating voice to shut the eff up! It is loud and relentless and wants to take over your entire being--i get it, but it is also wrong, wrong, wrong.