The idea of self-harming to try to get safe seems a little different than preoccupation with a wound. If I had such a wound I'd cover it with a band aid but I'd still be a little preoccupied with it in my mind. The bottom line is mostly about the stress, and finding safe ways to deal with it. I now realize that we have the same challenge. It just shows up differently. Well, I don't have a houseful of peeps or a spouse who doesn't accept that no is not a request but a declaration.. If I did I'd be hiding out in the attic. Please keep up not self-harming and keep looking for other options. Keep checking in.