Moonkin, these are all good questions that every person who is growing up needs to be asking themselves. If you weren't asking these questions, you wouldn't be a normal person.

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I'm always wondering how do you know someone really cares?
Do therapists/pdocs really like you?
Why do people seem to get lust and love mixed up?
Is sex all that strives relationships?
When will I see the light?
Why do I think these things?
How can I stop it?

Dustin

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knowing when someone really cares is hard because we never truely know what another person is thinking, but it seems to be something that shows.....when they give more to a relationship than they get from it....can sometimes be a sign that they really care....or when they give of themselves & aren't asked to (which is sometimes why we feel funny asking things of people because we would really love it is they cared enough to do it without our asking....jmo)

We can only hope that we find the therapist/pdoc who really likes us & that we aren't just their job....that is why we need to feel a connection to them to feel really good about the Dr/patient relationship.

JMO, but people like the exciting feeling of lust......love is more of a deep, down to earth, caring about someone....& the exciting feeling isn't necessarily a part of that deeply caring for someone.

jmo again, but sex being all that strives relationships isn't the case for everyone (my experience). From my experience.....friendship should be what is the base of relationships....for without friendship & caring, I don't think a relationship exists. If sex is the only thing, then it isn't a relationship unless that is all one wants from the relationship & no lasting bond.

We all see the "light" at our own time. When we come to our own understanding of ourselves, & what we want for our own lives......it is the understanding we get from giving thought to lifes questions.....& giving these questions our individual answers....is when the light starts to shine. Some people go through life never asking questions....just accepting what life throws at them ,saying they are controlled by the life around them instead of understanding what they want from life & going after it.

Like at said in my first paragraph, It is normal to think these things as we grow up & mature. You wouldn't want to stop asking these questions because that would mean that you didn't care about your own life & defining your own values.

Hope this helps answer some of those questions you have. These are all things that most normal people go through when they start defining their thoughts. Some people ask these things when they are young....some when they are older, & some never think they need to ask questions like this....only to find it to be a problem later on in life....that they never stopped to think about it.

It's all part of the maturing process...& needless to say, I am 54 years old....been through it myself....& been through it with my own daughter....& dealing with a husband who after 32 years of marriage is realizing he didn't stop to think about some very important questions when he was younger....& it's causing problems this far down the road.

Enjoy thinking & defining your life....that is what you are doing with your questions....you wouldn't want to stop that,
Debbie