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Old Nov 25, 2015, 02:47 PM
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Originally Posted by granite1 View Post
im having such a hard time with my son going to his girlfriends family for thanksgiving. even worse is the fact that they want my husband and i to come for dinner . my T thinks it is a great idea and that my son needs us to go and support him . there is so much more going on for me then my son just going someplace else for thanksgiving . its about my son having a girlfriend in his life that i feel needs to like me and i know in the end wont so my son will stop coming around, feelings that i dont want my son coming around with his girlfriend . im humiliated about who i am i never thought about what it would be like for my son to bring someone in this family . i worry when the mother finds out that i am just horrible and wont want there daughter seeing my son any more. there is so much going on in my head around this other then just going to the girlfriends house . i was trying to tell her about what is going on and she just kind of said stop.and asked what am i doing to my self. i couldnt answer she seemed so annoyed or something . i cant help who i am . i really just want to get my son out of my life because it hurts to have him in it . i feel its better for him to be away from this horribleness. my T agains says he needs me and that im not horrible etc.... she just doesnt get it and i hut so bad i just keep crying .

Your t does get it.

You don't get it.

Your son has one mother. You. How do you think he will feel if you emotionally cut him off, if you abandon him?

Yes it's uncomfortable but you can't grow if you don't sit with the feelings and come through them. You can do this. Your T knows you can. Us here on PC know you can.

Now it's time for you to realize you can. It's scary and hard but you are strong and capable.

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