I suppose I don't understand. I have a really great therapist; she makes me feel safe and understood, yet when I leave the office any feeling of friendlyness or sense of a relationship stays behind. Maybe though that is because we talk about what ~I~ am going to do to work on my health. It has never been '~we~ will work on such and such'. My independence has always been stressed. She is very nice and I like her a lot, it's just never occured to me that there could exist any closeness.