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Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow
Sorry to hear this. I wonder how realistic your feelings about the O/W are, and how much they are an expression of your discontent with your life. As well as M/C perhaps personal counselling might help make sense of your distressing situation.
But you are far too young to have made a mess of your life, and there is time and scope to make things better.
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Thank you MoCS, what you said is something I think about so much. It's hard for me to figure out if it really was the O/W or if it was the thought of being with someone else and away from my current life. I would say it was the latter but for some reason she in particular stood out to me and I have no idea why. I've had so many different women pass by me at work and in school, some very forward, but to all I have declined and shut down. But her.... I just don't know, and I pursued her, not the other way around, and it took a some time to get her to start seeing me.
I have thought about going to individual counseling also, as I have not disclosed the affair to anyone. I know that therapist have the rules set of keeping what is said in sessions private, but I feel it would somehow come out or move the direction of the MC sessions a certain way if I disclosed it, so it kind of leaves me with having to find another therapist to help me individually with this.