I'm glad you're having a nice day with your family. Take a mini-vacation from thinking about your mom. She's been in this world longer than you have, and I have a feeling she knows how to survive. Enjoy the peace of not having her there, disrupting the mood. Your boys have a right to make some holiday memories, untainted by the foolishness she injects. Let them decide how often and when they want to make phone calls. Happy Thanksgiving.