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Originally Posted by unaluna
Where is she wrong? Seriously. I like the part about yearning and longing. Longing was a phase i went thru.
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Agreed. I think skyscrapers post articulates the concept of transference very well. I think the point is no matter what you see of a T in therapy sessions, it's still only one part of the whole person. You don't know what he is like in his personal life at all. I don't know if he's married or not, but either way, maybe he has a history of being a womanizer. Maybe he's cheated on past girlfriends or his wife. Maybe he's a lousy tipper or a rude customer. What you see is an idealized version of someone. Maybe he gives you things in therapy that you may not get from other men in your life, like support, postitive regard, attention, etc...Of course you're going to love him! A lot of women (or men) would fall in love with a T who gave them the things they're missing. I think the point is more to keep what's behind these feelings as well as the dynamic of the relationship in perspective.