I'm sorry to hear that you are having these experiences. I am in a different field, but can relate to work stresses and frustrations relating to both tasks and environment/coworkers. It's a challenge, and sometimes it takes a toll on us and our well-being.

We can't change others, or how they act or treat us and toxic work environments can take a toll on us and our well-being. With time and support, we can take control of our lives, though, and in time can change how we process and think about these situations.

I would echo some of what "IceCreamKid" has noted. You've gained an awareness that there's dissonance in your life, and it sounds like you've been able to identify a few components that are effecting you... it may be worth trying to find support for some of the things you are experiencing whether that is a therapist or a support group. Finding a few moments for "me time" can also be valuable to explore and a tool to begin distancing the work from following you home.

I wish you the best of luck!