I think comparison is normal for everyone, but you're right that when it gets extreme there's a problem. Because I also think that comparison is a death trap. You set yourself up for failure because you're comparing your life to someone else's and you both are unique to your journey and path in life.

Those same people may look at you and think, "I wish I was _____________ like them."

I like to challenge myself to think about what that thing is and try to focus on that positive.

For instance, I used to compare myself to my sisters and where they are at in life. They have children and I don't. I used to think/hope/wish for a baby, but couldn't have one. I confided this struggle with my oldest sister and she said that she has always wished to have a marriage like mine. So the whole time we were both comparing and wishing for each other's life. I've learned to love that I have a really solid relationship with my husband. And accept that I can't have kids naturally. But it was only by seeing my life from the outside looking in that I was able to start being thankful and content.

In my opinion, contentment comes when you make peace with what you do have and set goals for what you want to have. Then you can take the steps to get there slowly but surely.

Best of luck to you!

Mrs J