It's sad that you experience that kind
of dismissive behavior from others ...

I've gotten to where I'll simply say I'm
grieving a loss and don't care to discuss
it right now ...

I've come to realize that those who haven't
experienced what I grew up in and how utterly
annihalated I am because of it can never get
why it is that I'm still grieving the losses over
20 years later.

It is a good bit better than it was 20 years ago,
but I know I'll still be grieving the losses of my
childhood, adolescence and early adulthood for
a long, long time ...

I'm Sorry you're having to experience this too!