Technically my fiance's parents aren't my in-laws yet but I refer to them as my in-laws. Last summer I moved in with my fiance to an apartment to end the long distance part of our relationship. We've been in the apartment 4 months and my in-laws have the thought in their heads that we need to buy a house now, that renting is evil.
We had this conversation when I moved and I feel that I'm not ready for a house yet because at that point my depression and anxiety hadn't really stabilized and my worry is that if I have an episode, the house will fall to pieces. An apartment is less space to take care of and no maintenance needed. When it was brought up this time, I considered it but then I saw what they want us to buy.
The problem is that my in-laws are in love with house trailers, very cheap old house trailers. My immediate thought is that in a tornado or heavy wind, the trailer will be gone, and just the thought of that possibly happening just ratchets up my anxiety. I brought that up and I was told that can't happen in trailers but it can to actual houses. Also that we'll pretty much lose our investment in several years.
I keep saying no over and over but my in-laws keep pushing and pushing because it's supposedly "cheaper" to buy a trailer than stay in an apartment. Thanksgiving and every other time I see them, it's talk about trying to convince to buy the trailer. They want to get a mortgage for us and have some payment plan with them, which is bothering me even more. They even came over Friday and had a talk with my fiance about convincing me to get this trailer when no one has even looked inside it.
I have stuck by no and have kept saying it but they will not listen! And I don't know how to get my fiance to them to back off. I probably sound spoiled but I do not want to live in a trailer, I lived with my in-laws in one for a month before we got the apartment, and I do not want to repeat that experience. And at this point, what bothers me most is that my in-laws are not listening to me! They just keep pushing and have even gone so far to figure out how to get the loan.
I can't handle this anymore. The stress is effecting my anxiety. If anyone has read this far, thank you for letting me vent!