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The post was sad to read from this end. Your mom may never change... and the exchange was awful. Wishing you peace in your own mind as you figure out how to have her or not have her as part of your life. The guilt trips need to end on both parts - blame never really solves anything - talking about here it is good but somehow you need to find solutions you can live with. Take care.
I have a friend of mine who constantly fights with her husband. Slinging insults back and forth that you can never take back...my observation to her: you both spend so much time with your armor on and attacking each other and defending yourself that neither of you can see the pain the other person is in.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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