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Originally Posted by DepressedMyself
I find myself asking this question more often than not. It is like the majority of people aren't interested in relationships anymore, well, at least in my generation. I am only 21, and I've never actually been in a relationship with anyone at all. When I was going through my teen years, I came to the conclusion that I will never be in a relationship and I was fine with not being in one for a very long time. However, when I started to be medicated, my thoughts and emotions towards many things changed, now I lust for a close relationship with someone, and I would love to care and caress them if I was.
But it wasn't as easy as I thought it would be. Most people in this current generation are not interested in closeness, it seems to be that sex is the only thing that is keeping people together. And when I say this, it isn't as if they anything in common, or they have each others interests at heart, they're only interested for their body and nothing more. To be honest, I find this type of behavior to be disgusting, because it is literal objectification. But, I realize that it is now the mantra of current relationships now, and I am finding it hard to get back to my previous personality towards that.
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You've received some excellent replies, so let me add mine. I'm a baby boomer, and you could be describing my experience as well. Particularly after my divorce, every sex-hungry, self-involved slob in the wood work came sniffing around. Most of the ones who figured out I wanting a loving
relationship slunk off for easier pickings. I was fooled a couple of times, though, and it was very painful.
But I don't think love is dead. However, I think it is a bit like a diamond; you don't stumble over those everyday, either. The best advice I can give is for people to figure out what they mean by love, what they want out of love, what they are willing to give out of love, and then to find someone who shares those values. The more strongly those values are held, the more enduring the relationship--but one caveat. Unhealthy 'values' can also be strongly held. So if someone is hell-bent on being a selfish taker, they
can form a long-lasting relationship with someone who is hell-bent on being a selfless giver. In this case, just because the relationship is enduring doesn't make it healthy, in my opinion. But that is my opinion, based out of my desire to have a mutually rewarding relationship of give and take based in love and respect for each other.
I'd also point out I am single, still, and while I am not living in the vine-covered cottage with white picket fence of my dreams, I am happier being single than I was being married to an abusive taker.
I hope I have added something of value to the discussion.