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The problem is that I struggle with relationships. I always have. I don't really understand other people. I can manage the general social skills which are good enough to pass an interview and function in an IT job. But I just don't have the sophisticated social skills required to make friends, influence people, and break into cliques. I think this is because i have some autistic traits and some BPD features. I am reading a book on social skills at the moment, I am hoping this helps me.
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Yeah, so there's a couple of things at play here:
Tech departments simply aren't known as hotbeds of relationship bliss....techs of most kinds tend to be object-oriented vs people-oriented.
Have you looked at DBT? That might help.
But honestly, find a way to deal with frustration and the people that you work with. It's okay to take breaks to deal with emotions, if your boss or co-workers have an issue, just tell them you are going for a walk to think through a coding problem.
Is it easy? O Hell no.
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