It reads as though by bailing him out of going to jail for not paying child support, that you have signed up to continue supporting a very nasty, toxic, selfish child who is posing as your husband. You're being drained financially, emotionally, spiritually and physically so I do understand how difficult it is to get the energy required to leave but it seems that by paying for him you are acting as his parent who is bailing him out each time.

You must begin to try to put yourself and your sanity and health, first as it does sound like you are ready to explode as nobody can stand all the pressure you are under continuously. I totally hope you consider therapy for you instead of paying for him.