I honestly can't imagine having that much contact and awareness of what my therapist is doing. Somehow knowing when your therapist is online seems weird to me. I mean, I email with my pdoc when needed but that's like once a month unless there is a big med problem or something and when I'm doing well it can be months between. Even now while my meds are doing very little for me and haven't been for many months I've had little contact with her outside appointments. My therapist I have contact with only during sessions and can't imagine him offering to call on a holiday as that would violate some boundaries he is pretty strict about. The only time I can ever remember him calling me was last winter when I caught influenza B and ran fevers for over 2 weeks. I wasn't allowed out with the fevers and we were in a time period that I have a history of struggling hard with and he called I think to be sure I was sick and not just avoiding therapy or not in very bad shape and not coping. It was really just part of the suicide precautions that I've had for a while.

The late arrivals and not letting you know, that would make me leave. I also would have questions about a therapist suggesting going med free since they are not psychiatrists and med suggestions are out of their scope of practice. (If the psychiatrist was also saying med free seemed reasonable or they were communicating it would change for me).

But based on my experiences with therapists things just sound a little off there. I'm sure there are therapists who make themselves very available but I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I like having space between my therapist's life and my own and I don't want to know when he is online etc.

But it's completely an individual thing. I do have a former therapist who makes himself very available to me and has for almost 20 years. And that's not uncomfortable so I can see it happening with a current one I guess. SOrt of.

can you confront her politely about all of this? I've had to confront mine about some touchy stuff this year and was able to do it will a carefully worded letter that fixed everything.