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Originally Posted by RxQueen875
She sounds very overbearing and dramatic. Does she suffer from any MI or personality disorder? I'd guess that's a yes even if it's not diagnosed. Unfortunately she is your mom and you're with her for life. But you're an adult and you can control how much of your life she consumes. If that means blocking her and not answering her calls then do it until or if she ever comes around. My dad is very critical of me also and believes my BP and other problems are just my excuse for being an underachiever. He calls me lazy and thinks I'm just a pill popper. I'm on meds and will never understand that. I ignore his calls/texts and when a conversation turns towards my issues I change the subject if there's people around. If it's around family I stick up for myself. Actually today which was thanksgiving, he brought up how I'm having trouble finding work. I said "okay dad it's the friggin holiday and we're here to relax and be with family, not talk about my problems". He shut up. He's not used to people talking back to him. The only time I call is when I have a purpose. We don't "chat". And I'm usually quick to cut the convo short because he's quick to start criticizing. So just try being assertive with her and maybe suggest therapy. Stick up for yourself. If that fails there's always the "end call" button [emoji23]
Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Risperdal 4mg
Trileptal 300mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 70mgs PRN
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Yes, she has been diagnosed with depression, many years ago but I'm pretty convinced she has a personality disorder. My sis and I both do as well, it's just always been a messed up family dynamic. I'm the only one that's ever gotten help, both my mom and my sis have refused to go to therapy or have gone only once or twice and given up on it. I'm trying to stick to my boundaries. I was around her last week and she was so nice and said "I miss you, you're never around anymore!" I just have to remind myself that if she were consistently nice and supportive I would have a better relationship with her but the way she acts is her choice and I can't control it. I've just finally learned not to be fooled by the good times, I think.