just a thought on why tell anyone you are a virgin question...we live in a world where it isnt safe to not know about the other persons sexual activity.. there are many STD's that are not cure -able but are manageable. for example herpes. I know many couples who did not discuss whether each other was a virgin and what their respective sexual history was and the end result was one passing along herpes to the other. the other person in the relationships did not appreciate getting an incurable, constantly flaring up STD just because of not discussing the topic of each others sexual history.

plus its helpful in the relationship to know that one or the other or both are virgins. this enables certain precautions to ensure that first sexual encounter is an enjoyable one not one filled with pain because one partner didnt know so they moved too fast and too rough for an inexperienced body, other wise great damage emotionally and physically can happen.

yes there are people out there who either want their partners and their selves to be virgins, and cultures out there that require it, but being a virgin doesnt define who you are.

a person first falls in love with the other because of common ground issues, whether they enjoy the non sexual time they have together as friends and lets be honest sometimes what one finds attractive in the other comes into play here too.

my point unless you are the type of person to not care who you have sex with, have one night stands, there will be plenty of time where you and who ever get to know each other as friends before you become lovers.

my suggestion dont worry about being a virgin first. First take time to form lasting friendships and then the love and sex will naturally follow, and when its time to have the past history of sex conversation you will be more than ready to discuss it, simply because its what will prevent you from contracting an STD from your partner, it wont be a situation of hiding your own lack of sexuality and then wham bam thank you ma'am and have a little herpes for a lasting memory of me kind of thing.

just be your self and enjoy making non sexual friendships first.