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Originally Posted by InRealLife45
In huge trouble at school. I was referred to the school's disciplinary board for:
Failure to demonstrate interpersonal and professional competence with faculty.
It is regarding a disagreement I had with a past Professor, but may also be due to the fact that when venting to my academic advisor, I told him that the Professor was an "a s s h o l e." So he referred me for disciplinary action based on the conversation where I told him about the disagreement.
The "conversation" between the Professor and I is here:
https://www.dropbox.com/s/94x0t8lu30...spect.pdf?dl=0
I discussed it with my therapist and she doesnt think it should be something for the disciplinary committee, but I didnt show her the printout of the emails. But basically just told my adviser about it and told him I thought the Professor was an asshole and then he referred me.
Was I being disrespectful to the Professor or demonstrating "interpersonal and professional incompetence?"
I pay 2750 per class, I don't feel like requesting Professor feedback after being told my work had to be graded with leniency and being refused is something that is okay. How am I supposed to do better on the next paper if I don't know what was wrong with the previous one?
To be clear: it stopped being about the 1 point/A- when he told me he was lenient in grading. At that point I was offended bc I don't turn in anything that requires a Professor to grade leniently, and if ever I lose points on anything, I am speaking with the Professor after class to ask the reason for each deduction if it was not written on my paper. The price we pay for courses, feedback should be included and I have never had a Professor refuse to tell me what is wrong with my paper, except this one. (I believe he never read the paper, to be honest.)
I feel like I cant do this, that its just proof I am not meant to be a therapist, I am not meant to be in graduate school, and I've just wasted the last year of my life on a degree I will never finish. |
I don't think your email exchanges were disrespectful necessarily. A bit overly persistent, yes. Your professor, in my opinion, did handle the situation professionally and fairly. From what I gather, your paper was only docked points for being late, which affected your final grade. It is my understanding many grad schools do not even accept a
final assignment if it's late unless a dire, documented circumstance has arisen, so I think you were very fortunate with that. It sounds like your paper was great. It was an A-, due only to lateness. Minus the possibility of a few grammatical errors, it doesn't seem like there is any feedback to give you for you to learn from.
Since you needed to pursue this situation, I think you would have been better served to have followed-up with the chair person for your requested appointment well before the 3 weeks that went by. Yes, she should have contacted you to set up an appointment as she said she would, but after a few days of not hearing back from her you should have again contacted her.
Calling the professor an asshole to your friend where others were able to hear is unprofessional, and demonstrated very poor judgement. I know we are all only human, but there are times and places where doing such a thing cannot happen. Given the field you are going into makes this a bit more concerning.
I think there is also major concern about requesting to switch out of the new class because of this professor. To just up and request a switch out due to a grade he gave you which was affected by the late submission of your final throws up a few red flags as well. This could be viewed by your advisor as "running from the so-called problem" which is yet another concern, especially in the therapy field.
It is my guess the mix of these things is what led to the disciplinary action referral. I can certainly sympathize with your depression situation. It's not fair, and it's not your fault that you were hit with severe depression. Just as your final grade earned is not the fault of the professor. I do hope you can find a way to accept responsibility for what has transpired and work to resolve the situation professionally. You make AWESOME grades so I know you can do this!