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Old Nov 30, 2015, 09:52 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
If you dont agree with it to begin with, but do in the end, then it becomes subjective. If you choose it, it becomes subjective. Basically im just being prickly about the choice of words. I felt like, boy, say "objectively" in college and people will jump all over you.

Irl - if you havent already put me on ignore like half the people on here! - i would ask, what gives you the right? My answer to that question is - hey i was raised by bonnie and clyde. I dont have any morals because my parents actively discouraged them on the one hand, while sending me to church on the other hand. So no, i dont know how to trust; i dont know how to behave. That gives me the right - i am ignorant and confused. I dont know what to think.

Im not asking for you to answer here, but just to answer for yourself - where does your lack of knowledge come from? Its very hard to define whats missing. Mine was attachment. I had no idea what it even was.
the right to...what? lack of knowledge regarding what? honestly i dont at all think that what I lack is knowledge- i have plenty of that. along with self awareness and insight.

what i lack is ability to use that insight, what i lack is emotion regulation, the ability to control strong negative reactions, which results in my easily escalating situations by getting more agitated than a situation requires.

what makes it worse for me is that I can see it happening, I know its happening, I just cant always stop it, sometimes it gets out of control, and when it does, its explosive.
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Gavinandnikki, unaluna
Thanks for this!
Gavinandnikki