Our relationship is still rocky, and not really because he abandoned us for a 2 timing female dog, I've forgiven him for that.


This is where the problem runs deeper....


Because she's been his whole world for the past few years, he did not take the break up well, even though he initiated it.


He felt he couldn't live without her, that he'd never find love again, so much so, he took her back, in secret, twice.


And then "made it our problem" when he found out she was still seeing that other guy.


So I had to sooth the same broken heart, over the same no good girl, more than once.


The third time I basically told him I'm over repeating myself, he must learn to deal like an adult because he didn't listen to our advice in the first place...


My animosity / resentment is probably better explained by the fact that we warned him from day one that she's not the right choice for a long term gf material.


Ps. The "our" and "we" I keep referring to is my brother and I, because the three of us were always close knit.


Trust me, you can have an awesome relationship and not lose yourself, your goals or your path. You just have to figure out how.


Even myself, I came from a "the world revolved around you" relationship (but that was because not only did I not fathom balance, but he was also cutting off my friendship supply) to a healthy balanced relationship.

I'm a single mom, balancing my job, household responsibilities, my daughter, friends and my bf.


So I personally know it can be done, and it is the healthier choice.


My thoughts are with you.