Yes, I have abandonned my life for boyfriends. Part of it has to do with my poor self esteem which leads to a dependence on the other person in my life. It is not an obsession. It is not an infatuation. It is not a need. Rather it is out of a sense of obligation; a sense I must return the affection shown towards me.

I quit university to be with and later form a family with my first boyfriend. I quit a job to be with my second. I ended a promising career to keep up with my third. And now I'm in a rather complicated relationship again. I have nothing left to give up but I refuse to give up myself.

Three months is very early to make a decision about your relationship. I like the idea that you make a schedule of where you can fit this relationship into your life. If he is to be the one, he will understand and wait.