It's the nature of the chase. Women want to be chased to some degree but once she gives in, the game is over. And since he's so clingy, it was over fast. If it's getting to the point where it's making you like him less then just let him down softly and move on. Or try and explain your guidelines to taking it slow. As far as the other jerk you can't get your mind off of. We want what we can't have. Especially when you put in the bad boy aspect. I too am always attracted to jerks because I think I can change them. Never happens. Just forget about that guy however you need too. Maybe therapy can help.

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