If it doesn't feel like a good fit, then it's okay to find someone else.

I see a DBT therapist and DBT is a child, so to speak, of CBT although it's much more regulated in terms of what is considered "DBT".

I say that because in DBT there's the core concept of acceptance called radical acceptance (radical being like an inner core acceptance, not a wildly crazy acceptance). It's not giving up, it's recognizing and naming reality for what it is. If my leg is broken, I can wish all day that it wasn't, but it is. I can bemoan the fact that I need help, but the fact is, I need it regardless of how I feel about it. So, I don't have to like my that my leg is broken. I do have to accept that my leg is broken. Once I accept my leg is broken - that this is a *fact* - I can then move forward. I can accept that I am going to need help - a doctor, crutches, check ups, people helping me get to things. I can also accept that I will have emotions about it - fear, worry, anger, frustration - and those emotions no longer control me because I can name them for what they are - emotions.

I don't know if that clarifies it. It's a difficult concept, but it's probably my favorite DBT skill because whenever I've been able to find that place of acceptance, I find myself less frustrated and my energy is better put towards the things I am able to effect change on. It doesn't mean I don't feel upset or anything, it just means I'm no longer trying to sever my ball and chain with my teeth and chipping my teeth in the process.