Hello DawnCrimson: Yes, from what you wrote, you did do some things that probably damaged your relationship with this person. However, from what you wrote, he's also not handling the situation in the most mature manner either. Reminding you of how "you deserve this suffering" is really crummy. Unfortunately, there may not be anything you can do about the situation. And continuing to try may simply make matters worse. So my thought would be that it may be better to try to just let things go at this point. Perhaps, at some later time, your relationship can be repaired, once you have each had time to heal. So I would simply like to send some warm thoughts your way with the hope that you will be able to resolve your conflicted feelings.