This is hard. For me it meant my mother didnt see or appreciate who i truly was. She would tell relatives i made $100,000 a year when i made only $35,000. Of course i didnt find out until much later. I wondered why everyone looked at me like i was stingy and cheap when i gave gifts. I broke with my mother in later years. I wish i had done so sooner. Or at least realized the truth for myself.