I have incredible mixed feelings of love and (not hate, but) resentment. There were so many times she denied me and my sisters and so many mean things she said when she was the one with the money. Now, she is still going to act like the queen on her high horse, not take any responsibility and continue to make bad choices, and I'm going to enable her to do it. And it goes so much deeper than that, I can't even begin to describe.

She's 80. I know I'm not going to change her and she might as well go out in her final days being comfortable. I'm not going to lose money on it anyway. I'll get reimbursed when her house gets sold. She ran out of cash but she owns a property. I feel proud that I can help her. My sister's can't, and she would have had to sell and downsize.

I feel guilty that I am feeling so angry and petty about it and need to keep that under wraps. I am really struggling and not happy. I feel caught and trapped between a manipulative mother and an incompatible husband. By helping mother financially, I am becoming even more dependent on husband because it's his earnings that will go to help her-- and she causes so many problems between him and me! He's a saint to even be willing to help his mother-in-law!