So from reading some of your previous posts, this has been going on far too long! You need to get some help with this and I would say immediately. He does sound abusive and you really need to make a change. I know if seems really difficult when you have children, but you just HAVE to think about her and NOW. She needs a Mom to care for her AND care about herself. Sounds like your husband is a control freak and I agree that he may be hiding something, as well.

I sincerely hope that you have some family to help you? If not,maybe a friend? If you're not taking anything for the depression, you need to get help with that and ASAP.

Big hug for you and I am really sorry you are going through this. You and your daughter deserve so much more in life. Please, please please start making a plan. Put it in writing, set small goals, but do something and do it now.